A few weeks ago I listed all the things as a staff (wives specifically) we commit to do for our team. I do have a few rules of things I don't do:
- no facebook with parents-ever, players rarely
I have found that simply saying “i'm sorry, I don't friend parents, but here's my (college provided) email address that seems to be enough. Some parents will still private message me on facebook, because they know I can get that on my phone, but still, they don't have access to family pictures and happenings
Those players who friend me, I only accept if they are in my kids lives. Those that enter our home on a regular basis I friend for obvious reasons, I want to what to know what's going on in the lives of those who influence my boys. Once they are alum I usually accept friend requests. My reasoning behind this is that our school has rules-no drinking, pre-marital sex, etc. I don't want to get caught knowing something I just don't want to know.
- Parents in the home-during the recruiting process when allowed by NCAA their have been familes who have come for a meal. What I have decided is that parents talk, and we are unlisted. Players will be in our homes and any question a parents has about our home can be answered by their sons.
- Phone number-I have occasionally had a parent ask for my phone number. When I've taken their son for surgery, when a son has gotten in trouble at school, or simply because they think having my number will give them more access to their sons. Basically, I will give this number out sparingly. ER and surgical reasons only.
I know all programs are different, and I'm not saying that having a different boundary is wrong. This is what works for our family.